I haven’t talked about it on this blog yet (because I’m only a few posts deep), but I’m utterly in love with One Bad Mother. It’s one of the few podcasts that I get super excited about every week and rush to listen to as soon as it’s released. For those who haven’t heard of it, it’s a fun podcast in the MaximumFun.org network by Biz Ellis and Theresa Thorn, experienced parents who talk about what it’s like to deal with children day in and day out in the all-encompassing role of “mom”. It’s supportive to other moms, is a very non-judgmental show, and in general it makes me laugh and smile. They have really interesting guests and there’s lots of opportunities to enjoy rants and raves by fellow moms who are going through the same shit we are.
This week, they released a book titled You’re Doing A Great Job!: 100 Ways You’re Winning At Parenting. It’s an affirmations book, filled with inspirational snippets about pregnancy, parenting a baby, toddlers, and dealing with your relationships while also trying to be a mom. It’s inclusive of adoptive parents and single parents as well, so of course I’m all over this. It’s a very quick read, and that might be my only complaint since I finished the whole thing in one bathtub self-care session, but sometimes that’s what you need.
The premise is that it’s hard to be a mom, and sometimes we get hard on ourselves for the things we mess up, or forget to do. You’re Doing A Great Job turns that on its heel but acknowledging all the things you are doing right. Like showing up and loving your child. That kinda thing.
Here’s an example of one of the pages:
Poop in the tub happens to all of us at some point. Sometimes it feels like the end of the world. But, when your kid pooped in the tub, it wasn’t the end of the world and nobody died. You just handled it. Good job!
Or one of my faves:
Every time you open your eyes, you’re bombarded with false images of “perfect” parenting. From carefully curated Facebook photos to children’s catalogs and Pinterest, it can feel like everyone is doing a better job at this than you are. Is it true? HELL NO.
Sometimes, we need to read this stuff. I honestly think all moms should give this book a go, so they can remember that we all are doing a great job at the stuff that really matters. Let go of the fears and worries that you’re not doing everything right. Because I guarantee that you’re doing a hell of a lot more right than you are wrong. And those things you’re “doing wrong”? They just don’t matter in the long run.
The book is about 10 bucks on Kindle, and is definitely worth the price of a couple lattes. You can buy it at your local bookstore, or on Amazon.